Overwhelmed by anger? Frustration? Heartbreak?
It’s not wrong to feel upset, it’s not wrong to cry, it’s not wrong to scream or shout, what is wrong is to keep it all inside and be alone in your pain!
Does nobody seem to understand how you feel about being abandoned pregnant by the man you once loved?
Do people say that you haven’t moved on or that you’re not over him because you can’t stop talking about what he did to you?
If they do then you’ve been speaking about your situation and sharing that information with the wrong ones!
I’ve spoken to too many women who tell me that they’re unable to express their emotions with those who they consider to be their ‘nearest and dearest’
because they know that they will say something negative or what they don’t want to hear or need to hear at that moment in time which only leaves them feeling worse!
Women who have been abandoned pregnant need support not scrutiny.
Don’t bottle up your feelings out of fear from what others who just don’t get it will think!
Instead, open yourself up to everything, embrace those emotions, express your truths and let them flow out- if, as and when they need to! Don’t miss out Sometimes you don’t even need to speak to anybody, you can come to your own solutions via writing! Be your own therapist, nobody knows you better than yourself! Deep down you know what you need to do, what you’d like to make happen and how to go about doing it, but too often we seek approval and opinions from others about our own emotions which we are in control of, not them!
Of course there will be times when you need someone who is completely genuine in caring about how you feel and can relate to you while giving you an ear and advice but just make sure it’s someone who isn’t judgemental and likely to take shots at your self-esteem.
Always remember that what hurts you now will be over one day and you will realize that these challenges had great purpose in your life!
Kandy D x